Join us for this 5 week online course to support you with the insight, knowledge, ideas and tools to navigate sexism, challenge rape culture, nurture the best parts of being a man and actively make needed change.

Having curated and taught this course, online over the last two years, we are now launching our latest and most exciting men’s learning course: Dismantling Male Violence and Rape culture: A Survivor Led Course for Men. This course will be held over 5 weeks (one session every Wednesday evening).

This course will be an open, honest, compassionate space where we collectively learn through discussion, questioning and challenging ourselves. Led by women who are survivors (of rape, sexual violence and domestic abuse) who have extensively worked within survivor services and campaigns to end male violence - offering you the opportunity to ask ask any uncomfortable questions or those you have felt unable to ask in a non-judgemental space.

Although we will explore difficult topics and we will have challenging conversations, we will also be learning from a place of joy, connection and humour.

There aren't enough spaces built like this, but if we build them together then we can both understand and support each other from a place of empathy and care.

This is an exciting opportunity to deeply learn in a different way; where we unlearn as a community and a collective rather than with division, fear and blame.

It can feel overwhelming seeing violence and abuse and not knowing what to do. When so many men are causing extreme harm and you feel powerless to stop it, it’s hard to know how and where to begin challenging this behaviour in everyday life. This course has been lovingly built to help you face these challenges powerfully.

We need you to see the severity of danger we all face, especially women and marginalised genders. We need you to see the very real violence we all experience, by men. We need you to understand the real impact of sexism and the patriarchy.

If you want to address the actions of men and help create a world where women are actually safe to walk the streets - then we invite you to come to this course and join a beautiful community of men, learning how to work towards ending male violence and sexism.

Course content:

Understanding what sexism and misogyny looks like in 2023. What is the impact on all genders?

How patriarchy maintains power dynamics, gender roles and male violence. How sexism impacts men.

What is rape culture and how it shows up in ways you don’t always see.

How to actually intervene in situations of violence and aggression.

Unpacking the fear of rejection and vulnerability.

Nurturing positive masculinity.

Starting difficult conversations, navigating defensiveness and helping other men unlearn rape culture.

Connecting to the experiences of survivors/women and know how to actually help.

Exploring the complexities of sexuality, sex work, porn and kink.

Prevention work, exploring accountability and community response.

How to challenge male violence and rape culture on a wider scale.

Course details:

The course will be held online on zoom - starting Wednesday the 26th April 6.30pm - 8.50pm (UK time) and each week until Wednesday the 24th May.

Quotes from previous participants:

“Bryony and Meg’s course expertly explains how the actions of all men contribute to the dangers women face in society, but crucially, how we can act now to make positive changes. It’s not easy to confront the issues explored, and nor should it be, but Bryony and Meg manage to lead sessions with warmth and wit, making for an enjoyable and rewarding experience. The course should be compulsory for every man, but as it isn’t, you should use your initiative and sign up now.” Jared

“The course is challenging in all the best ways. The content and learning of the course was well researched, well delivered and hard hitting (again in the right way) but what the course did so well was create a safe where people could be honest... about the impact of the information, about their own observations and experiences and about their privilege (which can often be the hardest thing for people to reflect on). I would have considered myself well informed before starting the course but my understanding was greatly expanded and coming away I feel a stronger sense of responsibility to act and well-equipped to do so.” - Danny

"The course helped me to question and challenge my concepts of masculinity in very deep and tender ways that feel genuinely lifechanging. There were such a wide range of discussion points and the attentative ways Bryony and Meggan facilitated the space opened up the possibility of very rich discussions in the group." - Joe

"Meggan and Bryony showed kindness and compassion in their facilitation space for men to reflect on the culture they've been raised in, without softening the impact of male violence and rape culture. After this course I had resources from Bryony and Meggan as well as shared experiences from other male bodied people, which helped me to reflect on my own life and add evidence that I am not alone in feeling the impact caused by patriarchal masculinity.I am truly grateful for this experience." Lew

The Facilitators:

Meggan and Bryony collectively have over twenty years’ experience working within human rights, crisis and trauma services, and male violence charities, winning multiple awards for their work. Previous roles include case worker, key worker, support worker, deputy manager, programme facilitator, training coordinator, project manager and supervisor. These were within safe houses, sexual violence services, domestic violence services, trafficking and sexual exploitation, homeless support services and mental health services.

Both have worked within the police: Meggan on the UK’s first Independent Rape Scrutiny Panel and Bryony as the only female Independent Advisor on the Police and Crime Panel scrutinising the work of the Police Crime Commissioner covering Avon and Somerset. Bryony worked at Unseen for three years and alongside supporting survivors, she worked in partnership with the police supporting the UK's anti-Slavery partnership, advising on police operations.

They have been involved in and led various campaigns around domestic violence, rape and sexual violence, anti-trafficking, detention centres and workers rights.

As survivors of rape and sexual violence and having worked extensively within this field, they have a breadth of knowledge, expertise and unique insight, that they bring to this work.